If you are in the “Harry and Meghan are bad for speaking about their family” camp, or a variation of such, you are defending your own abuse, or at the very least mistreatment, and most likely pathology.
This mass reaction, surprising at first, is a defense mechanism triggered by Harry’s story.
“How dare you speak of the trauma and mistreatment that you endured. Now, I have to acknowledge the trauma and mistreatment I’ve endured.
Blaming my parents is unacceptable for me, so blaming your parents should be unacceptable for you.
I am carrying my parents’ trauma like a good child that I am. Just like they were good children and were carrying their parents trauma.
I can’t stand it if my child will hold me responsible for putting on my emotional baggage on them. They need to carry my baggage because it is too heavy for me to carry. They should never find out that it is MY baggage I am making them carry. If they hear Harry’s story they may realize that they are like him, that they were forced by me to live out the trauma that I lived. ”
Oh, how scary it is to look at the abuse we have endured.
We need to protect those that abused us
In the name of family.
We need to silence those that are speaking up
Or else we’ll need to face our own trauma
Or else we can’t make our children carry our shame
Or else we’ll have to work through our own pathology
It is too terrifying.
No, no, no, no, no.
Let’s silence those that speak up instead.
It is the one with the yellow stripes 